I have noticed that when my son finally possesses a coveted
item, such as a marshmallow, rather than partake of his treat he holds it in
his hand until my husband or I convince him to enjoy his treat. I too am this way with things I enjoy. I am one of those people who might buy a box
of chocolates and only partake of small amounts on special occasions that I
deem worthy of such a treat. Sadly, many
times I have forgotten I had the treat or it simply ruins before I to it. Yet, still I have this intense desire to
savor an item by tempting myself with it, telling myself I just might want or
need it more on another day. This means
I do not enjoy the treat many days as I feel there is no reason to reward
myself with such a thing and also this rejection give the treat this impossible
standard that I am often disappointed when I do indulge in the item.
My friend, when discussing this behavior with her, pointed
out that this is a good life lesson. How
often do we, (meaning me) let life pass us by because we have unrealistic
expectations of things in our life? How
often do we let life pass us by because we are too scared or preoccupied to
just enjoy the moment? I always regret
and feel remiss when I discover a treat that could have been enjoyed that I
missed out on. I would hate to have any
of those same regrets when looking back on my life.
Enjoy today. You are
here for a reason. Live today as it is
your life to live!
Great example and so true! Don't miss out. :)
ReplyDeleteIt's also good behavior because it shows he's not impulsive. There have been many studies on children like this and they show how much this type of personality is focused and moves ahead in life. They typically don't have behavior problem in school and like to accomplish tasks:)
ReplyDeletethats really nice to know! and these descriptions do really fit him :)
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