Today I made peanut butter bread and offered some to my friend. He replied that he had seven keys to his heart and that I had discovered one of his keys: baked goods. He had to go, but I couldn't stop thinking about what he said. It just made so much sense to me. It made sense why some people seen to instantly unlock our hearts, while other struggle to know us and sadly fall into the title of acquaintance or friend rather than lover or best friend. Some people posses keys to our heart and sometimes upon faith, we unlock the last couple of hinges on good accord. All of these thoughts led to this: what are the locks on my heart and what are the keys required to open them?
1. Religion: I hope by now, you all understand and comprehend just how much religion is a part of who I am. It enlarges my heart, therefore, it makes sense those who hold this key within themselves as well communicate with me more openly as that is one lock or block that does not need to be in place as we share ourselves with one another.
2. Common experience: I feel very few people can comprehend, much less understand the trials and hardships I have been through. Obviously, no on will have had my experiences, but those ho have endured similar hardships, speak to my heart as often times I feel more comfortable and less judged.
3. Communication: Those who know how to communicate openly and in the same fashion as I do, manage to create a bridge where I feel heard and validated, opening me up further. This can go even further as those who know how to communicate like this are often more self aware, which promotes individualism that intrigues me.
4. Kids: Motherhood for me was hard to come by and a blessing I thank God for daily. Those who ask about and understand this miracle in my life and the magnitude of the time and love hey occupy also have a key to my heart as they truly understand what is within.
5. Honesty: As you can imagine from all I have been through, this one is big for me. If you couldn't tell from my memoir, I have no problem being brutally honest and straightforward and always want in return what it is I offer.
6. Books: For years, through my childhood and depression, books have always been my companion. They encompass very emotion I have ever felt, every companion I have ever had and every love I have ever experienced. If I spent four years of my life getting a degree in it, obviously it is something near and dear to my heart. Discussion, knowledge, or the desire to know more, opens this up for me.
7. Special spark: This one hardly seems fair, but is very real. Some people just wake you up. they make your insides tingle with familiarity. Something about this connection draws you to them and excites your senses. Sadly this is one that has only been unlocked but a few times. This is one I have "settled" for and unlocked myself in order to give people full access, but in the end I have found it only leads to hurt and disappointment.
I feel these locks and keys apply to both male and female. So, what is the purpose of all of this? Knowing for myself what is needed to open my heart fully, opening it up to a connection that is rare and beautiful. To help me see and cherish those who hold the keys that they do and being more aware of what guards my heart and why. I will have the opportunity to start dating in 16 days and I will not make the same mistake of unlocking or selling myself short again. I am of great worth, which makes sense why we keep something as precious and valuable as that locked away for those who have the correct tools and keys and for those who put forth the work to partake in what we have to offer.
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