Men and
women are different. Although many try
and argue we are the same, there are innate differences that set us apart. I am not going to list the personality and
character differences, but it is these differences that set us apart from our
male counterpoints. It is these
differences that make us great mothers as we inhibit certain traits that allow
us to be the compassionate nurturer’s children need. Having said this, this is exactly what makes being
a mom so difficult. Let me explain: from day one a newborn depends on us for
their livelihood as we give them what they need while they grow inside our
womb, to meeting every physical need outside of the womb. This interaction provides the mother with an
insanely deep connection to the baby, that no one but a mom could understand. We help and watch these babies grow as we
stay up night after night giving them the comfort, attention and love they need
and although it can be stressful, this fulfills our needs as well as we are
using these traits and abilities in a glorious way. Then the inevitable
happens, these babies begin to grow up and we now teach them the importance and
necessity of taking care of themselves, because we know we can’t always be there
to take care of our little babies. We
love taking care of our sweet little babies, and yet we are the ones
responsible for teaching them how to live and function without us.
We teach our children right from wrong so once again they
have the ability to exercise the agency they were promised on this Earth. We glory in their achievements and once again
we are validated in our roles as we know we are helping our children be
successful human beings. However, there
is always a day when these precious children use their agency in ways we do not
approve and it takes everything in our being to let them grow from their
mistakes rather than stepping in and robbing them of the pain and experience
they are working towards. Once again we
teach our children how to make choices for themselves and are then forced to
watch them mess up, make mistakes and hurt due to the laws and responsibilities
we have taught them.
Close to two decades worth of time, we nourish, teach and
strengthen these individuals and we watch them grow into functioning
adults. We have literally dedicated most
of our life to the task of being the role model, enforcer, encourager and
inspiration for these individuals and rather than keep them close to our breast
for the rest of our lives, we are forced to set them free in that uncertain and
ever changing dangerous world, praying and hoping we taught them everything
they need to know.
As a mom we are continually teaching our children how to
leave us when it is their love that makes us a mom. That is why the mom has one of the most
difficult jobs in the world.
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