I know it has been forever since I have posted! So let me recap the more interesting points
of the last couple weeks. For starters
my younger sister just got engaged and I couldn’t be more excited. She has no idea (until she reads thisJ) but it makes me happy
to see the blossoming relationship and the joy she gets from being with her fiancé. They are at that nauseatingly sweet stage
where they spend every second with each other and they are still learning about
the other person. No one is taken for
granted as they each view the other as the best person and blessing to have
entered their lives. Although my sister
is unaware, I secretly live vicariously through her. Because of the upcoming wedding I feel the
same excitement and anticipation and take joy in the stolen kisses and
butterflies that rule her life and secretly I wish I knew where to find all of
these characteristics within my own marriage.
I miss that stage and as everyone else we were one of those couples that
vowed to remain always in that stage and then one day we woke up and it was all
shattered. (TO MY SISTER: this does not mean this happens in all relationships,
it just happened to mine and I am so glad you get to experience this wonderful
stage; I am just a little jealous of you)
We also attempted potty training, but sadly that didn’t go
as well as I had anticipated. Several
months ago my son started asking to use the potty all on his own and for about
a week would tell me when he wanted to pee or poop and accomplished both
successfully. Then all of the sudden he
refused to practice going in the potty anymore, so my husband and I decided to
wait a while. My son is now two years
and two months so we decided to use the potty training in a day method…at which
point my son’s stubbornness came to rule the day. You see as I mentioned before he is capable
and understand how to potty but doesn’t want to take the time to stop what he
is doing to fulfill his obligation in the bathroom. He did not like being told where and when he
should potty or practice going potty resulting in several long bouts of screaming. Of course we did not let his fits detour our
goals and we did not force him making for on very long day where we had eight
messes and three successes. It really
was a day long battle of wills. My mom,
a psychologist in child development, said that there were two options. We could keep doing exactly what we were doing
until we broke the power trip he was trying to pull, or we could wait until he
was ready and decided he wants to be potty trained. She said the second option could be in a
month or a year; it is totally dependent on him. As my husband and I were emotionally fried
from all the screaming we both knew we could not survive a second day of the
same behavior and maintain the highly positive manner that is needed when
teaching and have decided to try again once a week or every other week to judge
where our son is at and hope it will work on the next attempts as we try to
fill him with positive potty propaganda until the next session.
Last, but not least, we are trying to get things in order
for the move. We should find out Jan7th
whether we move in a couple weeks or if we move in June, but since there is the
possibility of a rushed move, I realized how much I need to get done. For starters our closet in the bedroom has
become a sort of catch all for things without a place in our home. This includes a couple piles of things we salvaged
from the apartment fire but never got around to sorting or copying so as not to
lose. This will take hours of work,
hence the reason it hasn’t been dealt with yet.
So I am now attempting to work on these tasks in hopes of saving myself
a frantic bustle of trying to get things sorted so as important documents are
not placed in storage instead of with us, etc.
That’s everything in a nutshell other that Christmas went
very well: Santa and Grandma sure made one little boy very happy and it was fun
and infectious to partake in his excitement.
Headed to Indianapolis in a few days to visit my sister and her family
so it may be another little while until I post again. Love to all and Happy New Year. Hope to post something a little more fun soon
J
Good luck with the potty training. Try not to push him, he's still very young and will do better if he controls the speed. Most boys are closer to 3 when trained. Loni showed signs very early on, like 15 months, but it was a year or so later that she actually was fully ready. Forcing a kid to potty train is one of the most frustrating battles, lol.
ReplyDeleteAhh, the dating engaged staged, it's a beautiful thing! Congrats to your sister. :)
Good luck with all the organizing, I love doing that sort of thing this time of year. We've been moving all the kids bedrooms around and it's a lot of work!