Ultimatum

I have been feeling more and more hopeless as my husband and I continue to work on the issues as we see the marriage counselor, but have been aware that the last two months have just been a repeating cycle without any sort of resolution.  At therapy this last week our therapist made the same conclusion and asked why we kept kitting this wall.  I explained that I had been very open and honest about where I was and how I feel and have essentially drawn a line in the sand as to what I am okay with and what I am not okay with.  I then told him of the few items I had reputedly asked Josh to do to show that he desires fixing our marriage.  This list consisted of things like being true to himself; if this is who he was and wanted to be then he needed to call my parents and explain to them everything that had happened.  Reading the scriptures all the way through once (since he hasn’t ever done so) to show me he is at least trying before he decides God doesn’t exist. Considering the promises he made me when we got married these things are miniscule tasks, along with others of the similar nature.  None of these items have been worked on and so in my eyes I feel that I am the only one trying to repair our relationship.  Josh agreed that these tasks were not unreasonable.  It was at this point that the therapist said that unless Josh was able to state his own line in the sand so we can compromise then he needed to do those things I set forth rather than agreeing with them and then ignoring them; he said that would only lead to divorce.  He said basically we needed to either follow through or admit we were just going in different directions. After this session I told Josh that I agrees and that I had been telling him the same things for weeks now and I was tired of pulling our relationship by myself.  I once again laid out the four or five things I needed to see progress in before the next session (two weeks) otherwise his actions would speak louder than words and I would pack up and head home.  So now I wait for two weeks to decide if my husband is honestly trying to work on our marriage or if I need to face the facts and move on.