You never think it will happen to you; the car accident, the fire, the miscarriage, and now my marriage. Like it all before I fight for what I know is true and I fight for what will make me better; stronger. My husband and I have decided to start seeing a marriage counselor. I hope it will help clear those paths I didn’t realize were blocked. I have also learned over and over again that for things to get better, they have to get hard first. We have been through a lot so it makes since that we have both grown through it, I just hope we can now grow together. I would love any positive feedback from anyone who has tried counseling. As of right now I feel as if there isn’t anything for me to learn, I feel I have always been an open book and communicated both my needs and my feeling clearly. However, I am also aware that I am far from perfect and probably could learn a thing or two despite my background with a psychologist mother. I just felt like we were always headed in the same direction and I believe we can get to that point again, it has just been difficult. I am trying to stay positive and I am continually fighting for my family because that is something worth more than anything else on this world. I hope too that seeing a counselor will inspire my husband to finally seek the help he needs with the depression he faces. I am no therapist, but I fear and even feel pretty certain that he is suffering from PTSD and it is this that started out separate growths. Please pray for us because prayer is what touches the heart and calms the mind. Love you all!
I've learned, nothing is ever final until one of you remarries. So even if things get to a point where either one of you think it's too late; it's not, until one of you remarries. I don't mean to go "there" Only trying to offer hope to never say never.
ReplyDeleteAnd, you never know what new things you will learn from another source, at least it may be more for him, and you just need to be there to share in the awakening moment.
thanks Jenn :)
ReplyDeletei have nothing to offer, but my support. ((((hugs))) i have gone to a counselor for myself but not as a couple. i will say this...the fact that he is willing to go talk to a stranger is a great step in showing he is still in this! there are so many that won't let their guard down and talk. i wish you all the best through this emotional process as depression and ptsd seem to be the hardest to hurdle over. hang in there, girly! love ya!
ReplyDeletethank you that means an awful lot. Out second session is tomorrow and I am hoping it will gie us more direction, but I am nothing but impressed with our couselor.
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