This last week I have had my family in town which of course
is always fun, but something that my mom kept saying to me over and over in regards
to my son was, “he does that just like you did.” Obviously I don’t have any recollection of
myself at two to compare, but I found myself claiming traits in my son that I
feel I possess. For example, my son is
very stubborn and strong willed, a trait I also have in myself. My mom and I were talking about how this was
a necessary trait for a leader and I was proud to take credit for this in my
son’s personality. Then I stopped and
thought about it and felt silly for claiming my son’s personality traits. I noticed however, I am not the only one who
does this as I have encountered countless couples who claim, oh that’s so and
so child, etc, etc. and it made me wonder why we as parents feel the need to
claim possession of the traits we admire in our children. This is what I came up with: raising children
without a doubt is a full time job. 24-7
we are putting all we have into raising our children, but parenthood is also
very different from other jobs or occupations as we are not paid a salary and
many days our hard work goes unnoticed.
I think we encourage ourselves with a job well done when our children
make us proud and we can see something substantial and positive come from our
child as a result of this hard work. What
are your thoughts on this?
I think that's true. I also think bc that stubbornness and leadership trait can give us a lot of grief so when we see the good side to it, we need to vocalize it, somewhat soothing ourselves knowing that it IS a good trait and not all frustration. ;)
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