Stair step VS Collage

                So I have been working on this theory for a while now and it boils down to this:  There are two types of people in the world in the sense that this category helps distinguish (typically) how a person deals with the events and people in their lives in comparison with their past.  Ok, give me a second I know that was convoluted, but this is worth the read so hang in there while I explain. 

Stair step:  This is the type of person who is usually a goal or task oriented person.  In their lives they seem to categorize and compartmentalize where in the life cycle they are at.  For example steps in life include high school, college, marriage, children and other main events that happened during the individual’s life.  While past experiences and people influenced the person they are, once they hit a new level or a new step they see little to no need to go back and reflect on the past in rehashing old emotions or events that can’t help them on their current prospects in life.  This does not mean these individuals do not have times of nostalgia; it means they are content in their station in life or working to reach the next step, the “what if” game is more infuriating than fun as they have no control over changing the past, so why reflect on it. 

              These individuals although they make strong friendships and connections, have no need to think back on people from their past who are no longer active participants in their life (with the exception of Facebook).   Meaning this type of person has no need to reflect on their best friend from kindergarten as once again there is no point in rehashing old emotions or events when it has no bearing on their life at the moment.  That typically means these people are less likely to hold long term grudges and have an easier time at starting over in new places and new surroundings. 

Collage:  This is the type of person who is a masterpiece of every even and every person they have ever been in contact with.  They recall with ease memories from long past and can often times remember in acute detail conversation, photos, outfits people wore, and other seemingly unimportant things that somehow influenced them.  Typically (but not always) these types of people are more self reflective and are typically more aware of themselves and the needs of those around them as they have a wider range of focus.  This also means however, these individuals tend to lack a direct focus and tend to live life off the cuff.  These individuals are more prone to being overwhelmed as their current event/relationship is compared with dozens of others in their past. 

              These individuals have a very hard time letting go of people and events from their past.  These are typically people who enjoy scrapbooking as they enjoy going over their photos time and time again to remember both the good and bad that made them who they are.  These individuals typically choose emotions over logic.

              I would love to hear your thoughts on this and which type you think you are.  I am definitely a stair step person, which is why writing my story has taken me three years as it takes me time to focus and remember emotions and details I thought I had left behind.  Although it is therapeutic, it is also very difficult for me.