Frustrated Rant

              I cannot even begin to explain how aggravated I am right now.  Let’s start a couple months back when I realized my driver’s license expired in July.  Several months ago I asked Josh to get some information from me because while we live in TN, being military we are still technically CO residents and I needed to know what was needed to renew my driver’s license.   Josh said he would look into and as usual the subject was completely abandoned until I asked him for the information again and again and again.  I even tried to have him get me the information I needed before we went to CO to see if it would just be easier to renew our licenses there, but once again his procrastination won out and crap hit the fan that not much of anything was accomplished in CO.  Last week I brought it to my husband’s attention that he was driving around with an expired license.  He shrugged it off as no big deal, since he is military as long as he has his military ID and CAC card he didn’t need an updated license.  This infuriated me as I once again explained to him that mine expires and I still did not have the needed information and unlike him I can’t get away with driving around on an expired license!  I demanded he find out what was required from the DMV so that I could be prepared when I went in.  Yesterday he told me all I needed was my ID, proof of residency, and my social security card.  I let him know just how upset I was because I usually  take care of this stuff on my own, but being military there is a lot of crap I have to rely on him for as I had heard I needed an ERB (have no idea what this stand for) something Josh needed to get off his military page.  Because he procrastinated I now had only three days to renew my license before it expired which meant I had to do it last minute and take our 21 mo old son with me….You see my point right, a toddler at the DMV all because of procrastination!  So I was less than enthused about this outing.

              Josh felt bad for putting me in this predicament and since he had to renew his license he worked it out so that we could all go together this morning.  Josh told me that the DMV opened at seven and suggested we be there right when they opened so he could get to work a.s.a.p. and so hopefully we could bypass a long line.  I agreed that this was a good idea so josh woke me and the kid up well before our normal hour so that we arrived at the DMV by 6:45…that’s great and all except that Josh didn’t get the DMV hours from the DMV itself or by looking it out, instead it was all from word of mouth and I was annoyed and grumpy to find that the DMV didn’t open until 8:30!!!!!  Trying to make the best of the situation we went and picked up breakfast and returned back to the DMV by 7:30 where we got in line (we were first) and I was surprised at how at 7:30 how quickly the line stretched.  I was miserable though as it was already hot and humid and by 8:20 I felt sick and nauseous as the heat aggravated my pregnancy symptoms.  I was miserably hot, swollen and contracting.  At 8:25 someone came outside to start passing out numbers according to what we were there for.  It was at this point that we were told we didn’t have half of the documents that were required.  Turns out Josh got the information of needed paperwork from a fellow soldier rather than talking to his superiors or calling the DMV.  I needed two proofs of residency, my S.S. card, my birth certificate, my marriage certificate, my driver’s license and my military ID.  So now we lost our spot as we had to go home and collect all the necessary documents.  I was furious at this point.  I take care of all the bills, I run our household, I go to the store and clean the house and overall only ask Josh to be accountable for a few simple things that why in the world could he not invest the fifteen minutes needed to get the right information, which has now literally wasted two plus hours of my time.  We got the documents needed and returned to wait in line for another hour and a half.  So our morning that started at 6:45 wasn’t finished until 10:35.  I made sure to tell Josh how frustrated I was and pointed out that his procrastination affected more than just himself!  The child was tired and cranky, I am sick and exhausted and still had a full day I had to do on my own as I watched the afore mentioned tired, cranky child.  I was so upset that that his procrastination often time made my life ten times more difficult than it had to be!  This also got into how he doesn’t invest the time needed into the important things in his life and all this stress he keeps complaining about is a large result of his procrastination and I shouldn’t have to always pick up the pieces!  The irony of it all is when we got home he didn’t need to rush back to work, but I feel he did the same exact thing, because instead of giving me the ten or fifteen minutes to express everything I needed he rushed out the door leaving me to fume over this all day.

              Obviously, this is something we will get over but this situation shows how this behavior is taxing me past what I feel I can give.  I am seven months pregnant, with a young boy my day shouldn’t be filled with having to pick up the pieces of mismanagement or lack of planning when I have more important things to tend to.  Well if you read this all the way through I am sorry for the negative rant, but I needed to get it off my chest so I can finally put it away and stop stewing over it.  No point in carrying around all the negative and angry feelings.  In the end call me if you want to know what docs are required to change your license or if you need a babysitter to go to the DMV.