Ha ha, so
if the title didn’t interest you, I don’t know what will. You see last night my husband and I were
talking about my changing body as I enter my third trimester. For those of you who have ever been pregnant
you understand all the changes that occur with your lady parts. For those of you reading who haven’t been
pregnant let’s just say there is a lot more you have to deal with. For example at every appointment I have to
pee in a cup and make sure I don’t have a UTI (urinary tract infection). I was talking about UTI and yeast infections
with my husband and said, “You certainly have it easy having a penis” My
husband without waiting a beat, replied “I like my penis…I have never
complained about having one.” And this got me to thinking. I don’t think I have ever heard a woman say
oh I like my vagina. I made this comment
to my husband and he agreed that anytime he heard a woman talking about her
vagina she was usually complaining about it.
We then started talking about how many men refer to their penis as some
sort of entity by naming it or personifying it.
Now I am not saying there aren’t any women who name their parts because
I am sure there are, but it’s no common as it is with the make and he coveted
appendage. I was teasing my husband and
said maybe Freud had it right about the whole penis envy theory. However, all of this led to further contemplation
(surprise, surprise). Why don’t women
feel the same sort of confidence and appreciation for their sexual parts? Does it go back to how society and how women
are viewed or is it simply because we don’t have our hanging on the outside of
us to make it the extra appendage that it is for our male counterparts? Is it because the female vagina does take
more care and concern to avoid discomfort?
Or is it because our sexual exploits don’t help the way we are viewed, unlike
with males, that we have no need to take pride in our sexual organs? I would love to hear your inputs!
Interesting post...not sure which it is..the fact we don't deal with it hanging out as you say..unlike breasts where they are there all the time..but yeah no name for it and definitely a love/hate thing..(periods vs orgasms..lol).
ReplyDeleteToo funny! Very interesting topic. I think for men, the penis means pleasure. For women the vagina means funcionality. (for lack of better word right now.) We are raised knowing labor will be pain and periods will be hassle. We have to be careful with hygiene due to constant threat of bladder or yeast infections. I also think since we have the internal organ any kind of procedure is intrusive. (for a man also. I think more so for women.)I read a great blog post from a friend who made a basket for their daughter with books about loving her body and period and what a period meant she was capable of. It also had a diary, deoderant, and feminine hygiene products. Both parents sat down with the daughter and explained each sides perspective about women. The father presented the daughter with a neclace or ring for her to remember her sacredness as a women. I thought it was a fantastic idea and will be doing that with my girls. I also try not to complain about my period around them. I would love for them to have high vagina/womanhood self esteem/image. Thinking about breasts being on the outside the same as a mans penis is how we define or womanhood like men do with their penis.
ReplyDeletegreat insight ladies. Shawna I really like how possitive self imagae/self esteem/vagina appreciation is something that does need to be taught because I fear we do hear too much of the negative and I did like your comparisson of the penis to boobs and how many women covet more as men covet larger penis' as well.
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